POSH

How to Report Without Making It Worse

Report safely. Preserve what matters. Do not amplify the harm.
This page helps parents report online safety concerns without accidentally spreading evidence, escalating threats, shaming the child, or losing key details.

SAFE REPORTING
Evidence
Do Not Share
Official Pathways
Child First
Important:
This page is about safe reporting behaviour. It is not legal advice. If a child is in immediate danger, use emergency services first.
The report can help — or the reaction can make it harder
CALM FIRST. EVIDENCE SECOND. REPORT PROPERLY.

Parents often want to act fast. That instinct is protective. But rushed reactions can accidentally delete evidence, spread harmful content, scare the child into silence, or alert the unsafe person before the right adults know what happened.

The goal is not to make noise first.
The goal is to protect the child, preserve key facts, and report through the safest pathway.

Which situation sounds most like yours?

You do not need to know the perfect label before taking protective steps.

What makes reporting worse?

Posting screenshots publicly before reporting.

Forwarding harmful images to prove what happened.

Deleting chats before key details are preserved.

Confronting the suspected person in anger.

Shaming or blaming the child for what happened.

Letting the child deal with threats alone.

A rushed reaction can create a second problem.

The safe reporting order

Protect the child
Stop further contact where safe
Preserve key details
Choose official pathway
Report on the platform
Keep supporting the child
The order matters because evidence can disappear, threats can escalate, and children may stop talking if they feel blamed.

If the situation feels serious

Treat it seriously if there are threats, blackmail, grooming, sexual messages, requests for images, attempts to meet, repeated contact, or pressure to keep secrets.

Do first

Support the child, stop further replies where safe, and preserve key details before making major account changes.

Do not do first

Do not confront the person, post accusations, or delete the conversation before saving what matters.

Move next

Use the official reporting pathway that fits the risk and your country.

If images, fake images, or threats are involved

Do not forward the image.

Do not post the image publicly.

Do not send it to other parents or group chats.

Do not use the child’s image as proof in a public argument.

Use official removal and reporting pathways.

The safest response is to preserve details and reduce exposure — not to make the image travel further.

What to preserve before reporting

Preserve enough to show who, where, what, when, and how the pressure happened.

What not to send around

Evidence handling should reduce harm, not repeat it.

If school, peers, or group chats are involved

School-related incidents can spread quickly through group chats, screenshots, rumours, and friendship networks. Reporting still needs to stay calm and factual.

Keep a factual record of what was seen, said, shared, or threatened.

Save group names, usernames, screenshots of threats, and dates where safe.

Contact the school through the appropriate wellbeing, safeguarding, or leadership pathway.

Ask what steps will be taken to reduce further sharing or retaliation.

Use official reporting if the content, threats, exploitation, or abuse is serious.

Keep the focus on child safety, stopping spread, and proper process — not public blame.

If you are not sure where to report

If you are unsure, start with the reporting hub or the country page that fits your location. If the child is in immediate danger, emergency services come first.

Official reporting and removal pathways

Use the most relevant official pathway for the situation. Serious child safety concerns may need more than one report.

Australia: eSafety

For cyberbullying, image-based abuse, illegal/restricted content, and serious online harm.

Report to eSafety

Australia: ACCCE

For online child sexual exploitation concerns, grooming, coercion, or serious sexual safety risk.

Report to ACCCE

USA: NCMEC CyberTipline

For online exploitation of children and child sexual safety concerns.

NCMEC CyberTipline

Image removal: Take It Down

For nude, partially nude, or sexually explicit images or videos taken when the person was under 18 that may be shared online.

Take It Down

Report on the platform too

What to say to the child while reporting

Keep them safe

“You are not in trouble. We are reporting this because you deserve protection.”

Remove shame

“The person threatening, pressuring, or exposing you is the one doing wrong.”

Explain the process

“We are going to save the important details, report it properly, and keep records.”

Keep connection

“You do not have to remember everything perfectly. Start with what you can.”

After you report

Reporting is one step. Ongoing support and safety settings still matter.

Best connected pages

Final POSH reminder

Reporting should protect the child, not expose them further.

Do not let panic turn into public sharing, deleted evidence, or rushed confrontation.

Stay calm. Preserve key facts. Use the right pathway. Keep supporting the child.

The safest report is calm, factual, and child-first.